From Victim to Creator: Awakening the Conscious Expression of Our Divine Nature

I’ve noticed something about life. Most of us are walking around like we’re still in The Matrix, plugged into a system that tells us what to do, how to feel, and even who to be. It’s like we incarnate on earth, get handed a human body, and boom, we forget that we’re actually infinite, divine beings—expressions of pure love, creativity, and spirit. Instead, we become what I like to call “automated ego robots,” just reacting to life rather than consciously creating it.

For a long time, I have lived this way—reacting, blaming, and feeling like life was happening to me rather than through me. And honestly, it’s exhausting. It’s this constant loop of victimhood where we believe everything happening around us is out of our control: “That person made me angry,” “That situation ruined my day,” or “Life just isn’t fair.” Sound familiar?

But then something started clicking. It wasn’t some massive epiphany, more like a slow unraveling of awareness that came from simply paying attention. I began to question the stories I’d been telling myself, the patterns I’d been living, and—surprise—I realized I had a lot more responsibility than I thought. Not the heavy, burdensome kind of responsibility, but the kind that said, “Hey, you’re actually creating your experience here.”

Think about it: we’re these powerful creators—channels of Divine Love—and yet most of us are running on autopilot, reacting to life like we have no say in what happens next. We let our past dictate our present. We get triggered by anything that threatens our ego identity, and instead of questioning it, we dig our heels in deeper, defending our “human” stories like they’re the be-all and end-all of our existence.

The truth is, we’re addicted to our stories. The victim narrative is comforting because it means we don’t have to change. We can stay asleep in our robot lives, blaming the outside world for our problems and never truly looking within. But here’s the catch: staying asleep means we never tap into our true power—the power to be conscious creators.

So, what’s the way out? How do we wake up and stop being these sleeping reactors, trapped in our stories? Here’s what’s very imperfectly working for me, and maybe it’ll work for you too:

1. Start Noticing Your Reactions

Whenever something triggers you—whether it’s that annoying coworker, the person who cut you off in traffic, or your partner leaving dishes in the sink—take a breath. Notice how quickly you react. Is your reaction automatic? Is it rooted in an old story about yourself or the world? Just observing this, without judgment, is the first step toward waking up.

2. Question Your Stories

Ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way?” or “Why do I always react this way in these situations?” It’s like turning on the light in a dark room. The more you ask questions, the more you realize that the stories you’ve been living by might not even be yours. They could be inherited beliefs or patterns that no longer serve you.

3. Choose to Respond, Not React

There’s a subtle but powerful difference between reacting and responding. Reacting is unconscious; it’s driven by the ego. Responding is conscious; it’s driven by awareness. The next time you feel triggered, pause. Give yourself a moment to choose a different response—a response that’s aligned with your higher, divine self, rather than your ego.

4. Take Responsibility for Your Experience

This one’s a game-changer. Once you realize that your outer world is a reflection of your inner state, you begin to take responsibility for what’s happening in your life. No, this doesn’t mean blaming yourself for every bad thing that happens. It means acknowledging that you have the power to shift your experience by shifting your inner world—your thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions.

5. Practice Self-Forgiveness

As we wake up, we’re bound to uncover old patterns, limiting beliefs, and moments where we were less than kind to ourselves or others. Instead of beating ourselves up for staying asleep for so long, it’s essential to practice self-forgiveness. We did the best we could with the awareness we had at the time. Now that we’re waking up, we can start creating from a place of love and alignment.

6. Laugh at Yourself (Seriously, Lighten Up!)

This one might be my favorite. We’re here to have a human experience, and let’s face it—being human can be ridiculous sometimes. Instead of taking everything so seriously, find humor in your ego’s antics. Laugh at your old stories, your need to be right, your endless striving. When we can bring a sense of play and lightness to the process, it makes the journey so much more enjoyable.

Ultimately, waking up from the victim mindset is about stepping into the truth of who we really are—conscious, divine creators having a temporary human experience. When we stop identifying with our stories and our reactive patterns, we begin to see life through a new lens—one of curiosity, playfulness, and, most importantly, love.

And as we awaken, we not only free ourselves from suffering, but we also give others permission to do the same. After all, we’re all in this together.

So, take a deep breath. Start paying attention. And remember to laugh. You’re not the victim of life—you’re the creator of it. Let’s lighten up and create something beautiful together.